You might be someone who sets New Year’s resolutions every year, or this year might be your first time. No matter what stage you’re at there is never a bad time to set goals.
1. Be Realistic
The number one reason why most people fail to meet their New Year’s resolutions is because they weren’t realistic to begin with. Being realistic could be breaking your major goal down into smaller, achievable goals or simply only setting yourself one goal for the year.
In fact, the American Psychology Association (APA) says that focusing on just one goal at a time is more likely going to lead to a long-term success.
“Remember, it is not the extent of the change that matters, but rather the act of recognising that lifestyle change is important and working toward it, one step at a time.”Psychologist Lynn Bufka, PhD.
2. Base Your Goals On Values
Having goals that are tailored to your values and what you believe in is important and helps boost your willpower to achieve your goals. Not only that, but it gives you insight into the reasoning behind the goal/s you’ve set.
If you’ve said you want to save $30 000 by the end of the year, why is that? Is it so you can travel the world, buy a house, retire early??
It’s important to understand your motivations to help keep your eye on the prize.
3. Make It Permanent
Lots of people don’t achieve their goals because they don’t hold themselves accountable. Writing goals down and making them visible everyday is a great first step towards accountability. Talking about them to someone else is even better.
Making yourself accountable is also all about accepting that you are the only person in charge of you achieving your goals. It’s all a part of being mindful. You can’t blame external forces – it’s up to you and you’ve got this!
Bullet journaling is a great method to making your goal/s permanent!
4. Have Positive Self Talk
The road to achieving success is not always a smooth one, so being able to positively talk to yourself is integral. So rather than critiquing your every move you make, try taking the opposite approach.
“Positive self-talk is crucial. Sometimes, our inner critic gets in the way of our success, creating limiting beliefs that most of us aren’t even aware hold us back. Phrases like ‘I can’t’, ‘I shouldn’t’ and ‘There’s no way’ drive us away from what we desire.”Corie Chu, Personal Development Coach
So when you falter along the journey to achieving your goal, instead of beating yourself up, take time to look at your achievements and what you have learned so far.
5. Forgive Yourself
Similar to positive self talk is having the ability to forgive yourself. No person is perfect in the way they conduct themselves so we shouldn’t act like we are.
It’s okay to have a cheat day or two on the way to your weight-loss goal, or to splurge on your way to a debt free life. What matters it that you recognise you’ve slipped up and to forgive yourself and continue towards your ultimate goal. Individuals who are unable to do this usually give up on their goals when they’ve only just begun.
“75 percent of resolution makers slip up within the first two months.”John Norcross, professor of psychology at the University of Scranton
So instead of giving up, forgive yourself for slipping-up and find a way to prevent it from happening again in the future.